Posts by Ruby Payne:

When you are hungry

November 13, 2017 Published by

I am writing from Spain, where I am visiting my son, son-in-law, sister, and my two stepdaughters. My husband, Tee, was not able to come with us. In Spain, breakfast is from 7 a.m. until 9 a.m., lunch is from 1:30 p.m. until 3:30 p.m., and dinner is from 8:30…

Trick-or-treating: Why it is so important in poverty

October 23, 2017 Published by

Dak Prescott, the quarterback for the Cowboys, got my attention when I found out that he kept candy in his locker. I saw it in a video showing Ezekiel Elliott trying to take and eat Dak’s candy. And I thought, “That is something you do when you are an adult…

Audiobook excerpt: Crossing the Tracks for Love

October 20, 2017 Published by

What does it mean to be involved with or married to someone who comes from a different class background? Negotiation and a keen understanding of what is occurring are important. Knowledge of the hidden rules is important. Being able to talk about the hidden rules is even more crucial. These…

Podcast: Emotional wealth

October 13, 2017 Published by

What I hear from educators more than anything else right now is the numbers of children who are coming to them with emotional issues. Anxiety. The number of parents who are out of control. Kindergartners who are actually in alternative centers for their behavior. So how do we begin to…

Podcast: A Framework for Understanding Poverty – 10 Actions to Educate Students

August 25, 2017 Published by

One of the ways we have changed Framework is to start looking at a larger frame here in terms of a model that we’re using about what happens to the framework over time. And so what happened is we started with A Framework for Understanding Poverty, and then what it did…

How to increase student growth and raise teacher expectations

August 16, 2017 Published by

Increasing student growth and raising teacher expectations are two of the biggest challenges facing educators today. Here are three areas you can address with workable strategies in your classroom, school, or district. Encourage teachers to expect more, and prompt students to grow to meet expectations. Calibrate and standardize student work…

Audiobook excerpt: A Framework for Understanding Poverty

August 11, 2017 Published by

My approach to poverty is eminently practical: Having worked for many years in schools and school districts, I know firsthand that teachers need down-to-earth, relevant strategies in addition to theory. Their mission—and it is a critically important one—is to reach the children in their classrooms. They are on the front…

Video series: Reframing self-talk and other ways to build emotional wealth

July 31, 2017 Published by

I recently had a great question on Facebook. Someone who saw one of the videos on emotional wealth posted below wrote to ask about emotional abuse in childhood. When the questioner was very young, the father died, and the mother became blaming and controlling after that. In answer to the…

7 ways to move out of poverty without disrespecting your roots

June 19, 2017 Published by

I recently received the following message via our website: Hi! I’m new to aha! Process, but I have a personal question about generational poverty. Both of my parents came from a long line of generational poverty. I turn 30 next week. I am a full-time registered nurse, and my husband is about to start a career as a nurse practitioner.…

Podcast: Addressing the effects of high-poverty neighborhoods

June 2, 2017 Published by

When we want to lower highway fatalities, we test the drivers, inspect the cars, and fix the roads. When we want to improve educational outcomes, we test the students and hold the schools accountable, but we do little about neighborhood effects of poverty. The “roads” of a high-poverty neighborhood have…